Answer(s) 2/1/09

Happy February everyone! Here's a question and a few answers. Drop us an anonymous question (including a group question, if there's something you'd like to see answered by the entire GSA) HERE, or feel free to leave us anything else that we might find interesting--comment, feedback, news item that you'd like to see posted on here, anything like that. Also: the GSA's trying to get a cultural show started, which will happen some time around... um... March, or one of those months that comes after March. We're not too solid on the specifics yet. But it'll happen at some point, and if you're interested in doing something for it, you should look for posters some time in the next couple of weeks. Oh, and go see REP (this Thursday 4p, Friday 4p & 8p, Saturday 7p)!!

......Q: "i don't think i'm lesbian, but i kinda want to try making out with my friend (who's a girl). i'm almost positive she'll be open to it, as she's said before that she thinks she's bi, but how would you suggest something like that? i don't want it to be dreadfully awkward."

..........A1: Well, generally these things happen at sleepovers, either with a bunch of girls or just you and her. At 2 AM it's impossible for anything to be dreadfully awkward, i promise. I'd explain it to her exactly the way you just did, that you don't think you're interested in girls but you kinda want to make out with her, to see what it's like or whatever, and see what she says. Chances are she won't think it's weird or awkward at all. If you do end up making out though, make sure there are no misunderstandings afterwards. Make it clear that you're not in love with/interested in her (unless, of course, you suddenly find that you are, which happens sometimes) and that it was just a casual, one time thing, and you should be able to avoid any post-hook up awkwardness.

..........A2: In some cases, this can be a dream situation. But, in all honesty, you have to tread carefully because something like this could potentially hurt your friendship. You have to seriously weigh what you would be gaining over what you might lose, and consider the strength of your friendship and whether something like this can be tossed aside or if it'd be something that'd hang in the air for a while. I really, heavily believe in the whole "honesty is the best policy" idea, and as much fun as a chase could be, I'm not sure if this a chase situation. Or you could just try a semi-date sort of approach, where you two go out for coffee or to watch a movie, and kind of just see where it goes. Good luck!