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Wow, I suck at keeping up with a blog. Sorry, I'm ridiculous. More comments/questions will force me to get my ass in gear, though. Anyway:

Q: hey so i'm a bicurious girl in one of the youngish grades. and last night, i had a shockingly graphic sex dream in which i was a guy and i was with a girl...i don't know what that means. i have never had a wish to be anything but a girl, and i think i'm primarily straight. so does this mean something deeply disturbing, or is it just random?

A: If you don't think it means anything, then it probably doesn't mean anything. Dreams can be random as all hell, and not always significant. Of course, they can mean things--but no connotations of this dream are deeply disturbing. If it's not just a weird manifestation of social stuff, it could be a sign that you're questioning your gender, but no one would know this better than you. If your conscious self doesn't know about it, don't worry about it. My advice is to just sit down and think about anything you think the dream might be saying--and if you realize something about yourself, great, if not, your dream was just a dream. (And of course, if I didn't state it explicitly enough back there, questioning your gender isn't "deeply disturbing," it's perfectly normal, and if you end up needing any advice on that, shoot us a comment.

Q: How do you come out to your parents if they are homophobic?

A: Before you do anything, please consider this question: can you guarantee that no physical harm will come to you if you come out? If the answer is no, you might want to wait until you are out of the house before saying anything because, although it's great to be true to yourself, nothing is more important than your safety. If you feel like you really, really have to confess, prepare yourself for anything. If you want your coming out to run smoothly, you must set up a game plan beforehand. Consider timing: when is a time that your parents won't be tired, distracted and/or upset? Plan for the worse case scenario. Try to have an adult ally with you, or at least someone who you trust to help if the situation gets bad. Have a place in mind that you can spend some time at if tensions escalate. And, most importantly, have faith and confidence in both yourself and the love your family has for you. Just because they don't understand it now, doesn't mean they never will. Be patient, and don't rush!